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Table of Contents

List of Forms

  • Worksheet 1 - Questions for Potential Mediators
  • Worksheet 2 - Questions for Potential Collaborative Attorneys
  • Worksheet 3 - Assets (Parts 1, 2, and 3)
  • Worksheet 4 - Debts (Parts 1 and 2)
  • Worksheet 5 - Your Income
  • Worksheet 6 - Your Monthly Expenses (Parts 1 and 2)
  • Worksheet 7 - Exercise: Assessing Your Children's Needs
  • Worksheet 8 - First Session Checklist
  • Worksheet 9 - Sample Agreement to Mediate
  • Worksheet 10 - Mediation or Collaboration Progress Notes
  • Worksheet 11 - Inventory of Personal Negotiation Skills
  • Worksheet 12 - Negotiation Notes
  • Worksheet 13 - Notes of Consultation With Adviser

Using Divorce Mediation - Divorce without Court

By Katherine E. Stoner, Attorney Mediator, Nolo Press

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National - All States

Description:

The all-in-one guide that shows couples how to end a marriage, fairly and inexpensively.

Can you really have a civilized divorce? Ending a marriage is always difficult, but it need not be defined by financial or emotional conflict. Avoid huge legal bills and jockeying lawyers while protecting your kids -- turn to Divorce Without Court for help.

The book guides you through a negotiated divorce, using divorce mediation or a new approach called "collaborative divorce." Encouraging and straightforward, Divorce Without Court explains:

  • how mediation works
  • how collaborative divorce works
  • how to use either to end a marriage
  • how to maximize opportunities for settlement
  • how to get an agreement in writing
  • how to find and use advisors

Divorce Without Court provides the latest resources, contact information for state offices, national and regional organizations, and clear examples of what you can expect.

Table of Contents

I. Introduction

  • A. Why Mediate? Consider the Alternative
  • B. Divorce Decision Continuum
  • C. Why Mediation Can Be Your Best Option
  • D. Getting the Most out of This Book
  • E. Definitions
  • F. Icons

1. The Role of Mediation in the Divorce Process

  • A. The Four Divorces
  • B. Keeping It Simple: The Uncontested Divorce
  • C. Beyond the Basics: The Contested Divorce
  • D. Long-Term Effects of a Contested Legal Divorce
  • E. Mediation: A Different Way to Divorce

2.What Happens in Mediation

  • A. An Overview of Mediation
  • B. Introductory Stage
  • C. Information-Gathering Stage
  • D. Framing Stage
  • E. Negotiating Stage
  • F. Concluding Stage
  • G. Assessing the Cost of Robert and Fran's Mediation

3. Deciding to Mediate

  • A. Will It Play in Peoria?
  • B. Evaluate Your Situation: Are You Ready for Mediation?
  • C. Shall We Dance: Is Your Spouse Ready to Mediate?
  • D. Facing the Music: Factors in a Successful Mediation
  • E. It Takes Two to Tango

4. Proposing Mediation to Your Spouse

  • A. When to Propose Mediation
  • B. Who Should Propose Mediation?
  • C. How to Propose Mediation
  • D. Dos and Don'ts of Proposing Mediation

5. Finding a Mediator

  • A. Shortcut to Finding the Right Mediator
  • B. Qualified Mediators: What to Look For
  • C. Finding the Right Fit
  • D. Who Provides Mediation Services
  • E. Making a List of Potential Mediators
  • F. Checking It Twice: Screening and Interviewing Potential Mediators
  • G. Interviewing and Selecting a Mediator

6. Preparing for the First Session

  • A. Step One: Remember Vital Statistics
  • B. Step Two: Assess Your Children's Needs
  • C. Step Three: Locate and Copy Important Documents
  • D. Step Four: Inventory Your Assets and Debts
  • E. Step Five: Summarize Your Income and Make a Budget
  • F. Step Six: Consider Consulting a Mediation-Friendly Lawyer
  • G. Step Seven: Read Chapter 7 and Chapter 8
  • H. Step Eight: Prepare Yourself Mentally

7. Making the Most of the First Session

  • A. Mediator Approaches and Styles
  • B. Mediator Neutrality and Bias
  • C. Confidentiality of the Mediation
  • D. Agreement to Mediate
  • E. Evaluating the First Session
  • F. Monitoring Your Progress

8. Communicating in Mediation

  • A. What Is Communication?
  • B. What Can Go Wrong in Communications?
  • C. Tips for Good Communication
  • D. Tips for Communicating About Problems
  • E. Handling Strong Emotions in Communication

9. Negotiating in Mediation

  • A. We Negotiate All the Time
  • B. What Makes for a Successful Negotiation?
  • C. Prepare for the Negotiation
  • D. Negotiate Clearly, Firmly, and Respectfully During Mediation

10. Court-Sponsored Mediation

  • A. Types of Court-Sponsored Mediation Programs
  • B. How Court-Sponsored Mediation Works
  • C. Voluntary Mediation: To Try or Not?
  • D. Mandatory Mediation: Opting Out
  • E. If You Can't Opt Out of Mandatory Mediation
  • F. Preparing for Court-Sponsored Mediation
  • G. Attending the Mediation Session
  • H. After the Mediation Session

11. Using Advisers and Doing Legal Research

  • A. How and When to Use Advisers
  • B. Friends, Romans, and Countrymen
  • C. Legal Adviser
  • D. Counselor
  • E. Financial Adviser
  • F. Specialized Advisers
  • G. Coordinating Your Advisers
  • H. Finding Answers to Legal Questions: Legal Research Online and Off

12. Encountering Difficulties in Mediation: Breakdowns, Detours, and Exits

  • A. Four-Step Approach to Dealing With Difficulties
  • B. Discrepancies Between This Book and Your Experience
  • C. Delays and Disconnects
  • D. Tantrums and Other "Bad" Behavior
  • E. Extreme Discomfort in Mediation
  • F. Impasse: Mediation Hits a Brick Wall
  • G. Last-Minute Changes and Demands
  • H. Dealing With Persistent Problems
  • I. Leaving Mediation Without Burning Your Bridges
  • J. Where There's a Will, There's a Way

13. Writing Up the Agreement

  • A. Interim or Temporary Agreements
  • B. Partial Agreements
  • C. Why Put Interim and Partial Agreements in Writing?
  • D. Writing Up the Final Settlement

14. Women and Men in Mediation

  • A. Historical Background
  • B. Gender and Mandatory Mediation
  • C. Gender and Voluntary Mediation
  • D. Common Gender-Related Obstacles

15. Unmarried Couples in Mediation

  • A. If You Can't Agree
  • B. Untying the Nonmarital Knot: Opportunities and Pitfalls
  • C. Successful Mediation

16. Mediation After Divorce

  • A. Mediating Changes in the Divorce Agreement
  • B. Mediating New Relationship Issues

Appendix

Index

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